Top 3 Mistakes Women Make When Men Cheat

When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact finding mission. Spying, calling around, interrigating their partners, women invest their energy in a senseless hunt to prove what is already obvious: the relationship is seriously broken.
Mistake #1 -- The Investigation

When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact finding mission. Spying, calling around, interrigating their partners, women invest their energy in a senseless hunt to prove what is already obvious: the relationship is seriously broken.

You don't need proof that your man is cheating to know that something isn't working between the two of you. Whether he's actually cheating or you're just seriously paranoid, evidence isn't required to know something has to change. Driving yourself mad trying to catch him in the act of cheating won't deliver the peace of mind you are looking for. It will only make you look and feel crazy.

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Mistake #2 -- Blaming the Other Woman

Yeah, she's got to be pure evil to steal another woman's man, but that's really not the point. She's not the one who committed to you, who promised to to be true to you, and then cheated on you. Even more importantly, if it wasn't her it would be someone else.

People cheat because they are cheaters. When a man cheats it's not because he was innocently seduced by another woman's wicked charms. It's not because she offered something you didn't. It's not because she's better than you. Cheaters cheat. They don't need temptation to have an affair.

Let go of your anger towards the other woman. It's misguided. Focus instead on the fact that the partner you were in a relationship with violated his commitment to monogomy. If it wasn't her, he'd have found someone else. Even if she leaves the picture, there are millions of women in the world for him to cheat with.

Mistake #3 -- Changing to Keep Him

First of all, if your man is cheating, the last thing you want is to keep him around. Cheating is a pattern of behavior that won't stop no matter how many promises he makes or how many changes you make to keep his attention. If he has cheated on you, it's time to move on. Cheaters cheat... and cheat... and cheat.

Second, you didn't drive him to cheat. If your man is cheating, it's not a reflection of your worth, but an indication that he is incapable of handling the responsibility of maintaining a relationship. He is lacking mature adult coping skills. The problem is his, NOT YOURS.

Because you didn't cause your man to cheat, you can't stop it either. There is nothing you can change in yourself to make a cheater be loyal. Stop thinking that if you were thinner, prettier, wilder in bed, or more exciting he would be faithful. If your man is cheating, he's not thinking about you one way or another.

Chocolate treats that won't wreck your diet

There comes a time each month when women need chocolate and they need it now. There's only one problem -- you're on a diet. Do you really have to give up your diet to soothe your cravings? No. There are several chocolate treats that will satisfy your cravings without wrecking your diet. Best of all, you don't have to invest in expensive weight-loss products. These are products you can get in your average grocery store for low cost.

Low-Fat or Fat-Free Chocolate Milk

Chocolate milk can be soothing in more ways than one. Calcium is great for your body and also helps soothe unhealthy food cravings. Best of all, low-fat and fat-free versions of chocolate milk are just as good as the whole-fat version. An 8 ounce glass of fat-free chocolate milk contains only 150 calories and over 20% of your daily calcium, depending on which brand you purchase. This is a great way to end a long, stressful day and will definitely soothe those chocolate cravings.

Solid Dark Chocolate Squares

There are many brands on the market that sell individually wrapped dark chocolate squares. These are absolutely perfect for a chocolate pick-me-up. One of the top brands claims that a serving is five pieces and that serving contains 210 calories and 14 grams of fat. Now, I know that sounds like a lot of calories and grams of fat. But, you don't have to eat the entire serving. Many times, all that is required of a good quality chocolate is one piece, which would be around 42 calories and less than 3 grams of fat.

Fat-Free Chocolate Pudding

If you're looking for something creamy and delicious, fat-free chocolate pudding is a great option. Best of all, many companies now offer several varieties. No longer are you stuck with plain chocolate. One regular fat-free chocolate pudding cup has around 80 calories. You can save even more calories by opting for a fat-free/sugar-free pudding, which has only 35 calories. With calories that low, you could add a dollop of fat-free whipped cream and make it a real dessert.

Fudge Pops

Sometimes we need a bit of ice cream and one great way to get your chocolate ice cream fix is fudge pops. The average fudge pop contains less than 100 calories and less than 2 grams of fat. Best of all, there are several brands on the market that cater to those that want to lose weight. You can find a wide range of fudge pop flavors and several other chocolate ice cream treats that won't wreck your diet.

Dark Chocolate Covered Pretzels

If you're one of those girls that also craves salty treats, dark chocolate covered pretzels are a great options. A serving of eight mini pretzels is around 130 calories and 7 grams of fat. However, this is another treat that you will probably find yourself satisfied by after only half a serving.

10 best beauty timesavers to get you pretty in a flash

We'll make this quick: you're time starved, and you're looking for ways to get out the door looking pretty and polished that take a hot minute. Or you're just really, really lazy. Either way, we feel you. Here are 10 timesavers to get you gorgeous so you can save more minutes for living a beautiful life.
Tinted Moisturizer with SPF. With one swipe, you get hydrated skin, a sheer wash of color, and protection from the ultimate ager, the sun.
Convertible color. Instead of juggling separate lipsticks, blush, and eye shadow, choose a single chubby stick or pot of color that prettifies all over.
Brighten eyes. Use a bit of highlighter on the inner corners of your eyes and coat lashes with a glossy, lengthening mascara for a bright-eyed look. Also try using a white eye pencil on the inner rims of eyes.
Conditioner as shaving cream. Coat the bottom half of your strands with conditioner, and while it's doing the work of penetrating your dry strands with moisture, use another squirt to shave your legs.
Fix a self-tanner gaffe. Dip a cotton ball in lemon juice and run over streaky areas -- lemon juice is a natural exfoliator and skin lightener.
Super fast dry hair. Blow dry your hair from underneath, rather than aiming the nozzle at the top strands first. Flip your head over or clip top layers up.
2-in-1. Use a combo cleanser and toner on your face, hydrating body washes in the shower (so you can skip lotion), exfoliating body washes, and a shampoo-conditioner combo.
Basic hair with a boost. You only have time for a ponytail or bun. Dress it up with a headband, tease a little volume at the crown, add a blingy barrette, or wrap a piece of your own hair around the ponytail holder for some polish points.
Make a blow-out last. Sleep with it in a high, loose ponytail and dust with dry shampoo when it starts to look a little greasy.
Nice nails. When you step out of the shower, rub a bit of olive oil into the nail bed and cuticles to heal delicate, raggedy skin. What do you do to save time and still get out the door looking gorge?Get more life-improving ideas from Real-Life Makeover>>5 hairstyles to make you look youngerCould turning off the TV change your life?8 natural, no-make-up-necessary ways to look glowingly gorgeous

Social Not-Working: The Perils of Too Much Communication

We know each other, right? You're on Facebook. No? Maybe we tweeted about Iraq? Or were we job-nobbing on LinkedIn? Increasingly, if you're not plugged into a social network, you feel out of the loop. But as scientists start to study our newfound connectivity, some worry that we're heading for a massive friender-bender."It can be exhilarating, at least at first, to connect with long-lost friends," says network science expert Steven Strogatz, PhD, a professor of applied mathematics at Cornell University. But the downside, he worries, is growing confusion between our weak ties (people who might be useful in referring us to a good dentist or helping us find a job) and our strong ties (those we're very close to). "The distinction between genuine friends and acquaintances is becoming blurred. Users are spending time maintaining relationships with people they don't really care about."And who are these people, anyway? Electronic relationships make it easy for "friends" to misrepresent themselves—always showing their best side, for instance—notes Pauline Wiessner, PhD, a University of Utah anthropologist who studies social networks. Anonymity also allows darker impulses to flourish. In one tragic case, 13-year-old Megan Meier hanged herself after being cyberbullied on MySpace by Josh Evans—not a real boy, it turned out, but a creation of neighbors.High-speed connecting may even affect the way we react to people. In a recent study out of USC, brain scans showed that volunteers needed at least four to six seconds to process stories of virtue or social pain in others. "It takes a certain amount of time to fully experience complex social emotions," says the lead author, cognitive neuroscientist Mary Helen Immordino-Yang. Heavy reliance on the rapid intake of certain information—especially in younger, developing minds—could have consequences on our morality. It could also be "a whole new source of unhappiness," says Strogatz. "On Twitter the conversation never stops. You start to feel that if you're not involved in it, you're missing out."It's enough to make you long for the good old days of connecting over a cup of coffee.

Date with second women!

Date with second women! 　Must read, it is touching After I read.. I was unbearable with my complex feelings. When we are busy to sustain our life Do we forget or ignore something more important to us.

After get marriaged for twenty-one years, i found an unique way to refresh my love life. Not long ago, I was going to date with a lady, and the idea came from my wife.One day my wife said: I know u love her. I was shocked: The one I love is you! She said: I know, but u love her too.me to visit was my mother.

She was alone for nineteen years, however, I was busy with my job and my children, so I was less likely to visit her.The night, i called her, invited her to have a dinner and movie with me at the second day ' What happen? Are u alright?', she asked.I answered: I was just thinking that if I have chance to date with u alone, it sure be very interesting.After a while, she said: I do

The Friday came after i knock off from my worked, I fetched her at her home, felt like a little bit nervous. Because I had never been to a date with my mom before.her house, I found that she seems a little bit nervous too She was in her suite, which she wore during her last wedding anniversary with my dad, waiting for me in her houseShe made her hair specially, smiling like an angel.When she get into my car, she proudly said: all my friends were jealous at me when they know that i'm gonna dating with my son.We went to a restaurant which was not expensive but with warmth and cozy environment. My mom hold my hand as she was the wife of a president.After getting to her seat, I help her to order her food, Because she only can read the big capital words.When we were eating, I found she was staring at me, She smile and said: I remembered that during yr childhood, I always make the order for u. I answered: then now is yr chance to take a rest and let me to serve u.Sharing about our life and some special things happening these few years.We talked for very long time until we missed the movie. When I fetched her back to her house.

She asked: I'd like to date with u next time, but please let me pay the bill next time. I agreed.> When I back to my home, my wife asked: how's yr date with yr mom?It was interesting and fun, over my expectation', I answered.Few days later, my mom passed away due to heart failure. The thing happened in an unexpected manner. Soon after this, I received a letter, there are a receipt of the restaurant that I dated with my mom, and a message: I already paid the bill for our next date, even though I know I'd probably won't have chance to date with u anymore, I still pay the bill for two persons: u and yr wife. U will never know how meaningful the date to me, I love U. At the moment, I realized: we must always spare our precious time to our beloved, and told them u love them before it is too late.There is nothing more important than yr family, spend more time with them before it is too late.Don't make any regret in our life.

Regards from me to u in this letter ^_^>

Serenity

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can;and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful worldas it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things rightif I surrender to His Will;That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with HimForever in the next.Amen.

My Perfect.