Top 3 Mistakes Women Make When Men Cheat

When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact finding mission. Spying, calling around, interrigating their partners, women invest their energy in a senseless hunt to prove what is already obvious: the relationship is seriously broken.
Mistake #1 -- The Investigation

When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact finding mission. Spying, calling around, interrigating their partners, women invest their energy in a senseless hunt to prove what is already obvious: the relationship is seriously broken.

You don't need proof that your man is cheating to know that something isn't working between the two of you. Whether he's actually cheating or you're just seriously paranoid, evidence isn't required to know something has to change. Driving yourself mad trying to catch him in the act of cheating won't deliver the peace of mind you are looking for. It will only make you look and feel crazy.

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Mistake #2 -- Blaming the Other Woman

Yeah, she's got to be pure evil to steal another woman's man, but that's really not the point. She's not the one who committed to you, who promised to to be true to you, and then cheated on you. Even more importantly, if it wasn't her it would be someone else.

People cheat because they are cheaters. When a man cheats it's not because he was innocently seduced by another woman's wicked charms. It's not because she offered something you didn't. It's not because she's better than you. Cheaters cheat. They don't need temptation to have an affair.

Let go of your anger towards the other woman. It's misguided. Focus instead on the fact that the partner you were in a relationship with violated his commitment to monogomy. If it wasn't her, he'd have found someone else. Even if she leaves the picture, there are millions of women in the world for him to cheat with.

Mistake #3 -- Changing to Keep Him

First of all, if your man is cheating, the last thing you want is to keep him around. Cheating is a pattern of behavior that won't stop no matter how many promises he makes or how many changes you make to keep his attention. If he has cheated on you, it's time to move on. Cheaters cheat... and cheat... and cheat.

Second, you didn't drive him to cheat. If your man is cheating, it's not a reflection of your worth, but an indication that he is incapable of handling the responsibility of maintaining a relationship. He is lacking mature adult coping skills. The problem is his, NOT YOURS.

Because you didn't cause your man to cheat, you can't stop it either. There is nothing you can change in yourself to make a cheater be loyal. Stop thinking that if you were thinner, prettier, wilder in bed, or more exciting he would be faithful. If your man is cheating, he's not thinking about you one way or another.

Chocolate treats that won't wreck your diet

There comes a time each month when women need chocolate and they need it now. There's only one problem -- you're on a diet. Do you really have to give up your diet to soothe your cravings? No. There are several chocolate treats that will satisfy your cravings without wrecking your diet. Best of all, you don't have to invest in expensive weight-loss products. These are products you can get in your average grocery store for low cost.

Low-Fat or Fat-Free Chocolate Milk

Chocolate milk can be soothing in more ways than one. Calcium is great for your body and also helps soothe unhealthy food cravings. Best of all, low-fat and fat-free versions of chocolate milk are just as good as the whole-fat version. An 8 ounce glass of fat-free chocolate milk contains only 150 calories and over 20% of your daily calcium, depending on which brand you purchase. This is a great way to end a long, stressful day and will definitely soothe those chocolate cravings.

Solid Dark Chocolate Squares

There are many brands on the market that sell individually wrapped dark chocolate squares. These are absolutely perfect for a chocolate pick-me-up. One of the top brands claims that a serving is five pieces and that serving contains 210 calories and 14 grams of fat. Now, I know that sounds like a lot of calories and grams of fat. But, you don't have to eat the entire serving. Many times, all that is required of a good quality chocolate is one piece, which would be around 42 calories and less than 3 grams of fat.

Fat-Free Chocolate Pudding

If you're looking for something creamy and delicious, fat-free chocolate pudding is a great option. Best of all, many companies now offer several varieties. No longer are you stuck with plain chocolate. One regular fat-free chocolate pudding cup has around 80 calories. You can save even more calories by opting for a fat-free/sugar-free pudding, which has only 35 calories. With calories that low, you could add a dollop of fat-free whipped cream and make it a real dessert.

Fudge Pops

Sometimes we need a bit of ice cream and one great way to get your chocolate ice cream fix is fudge pops. The average fudge pop contains less than 100 calories and less than 2 grams of fat. Best of all, there are several brands on the market that cater to those that want to lose weight. You can find a wide range of fudge pop flavors and several other chocolate ice cream treats that won't wreck your diet.

Dark Chocolate Covered Pretzels

If you're one of those girls that also craves salty treats, dark chocolate covered pretzels are a great options. A serving of eight mini pretzels is around 130 calories and 7 grams of fat. However, this is another treat that you will probably find yourself satisfied by after only half a serving.